‘Shoulding’ All Over Yourself

‘Shoulding’ All Over Yourself

Nigel Marsh author of Fat Forty and Fired said: Often people work long hard hours at jobs they hate to earn money to buy things they don’t need, to impress people they don’t like.

How true is this for you?

Anthony Robbins said people ‘should all over themselves.’ I often hear when I career coach people that they should be in this role, at that level, and so on.

I meet far fewer people who are genuinely happier doing the things they want to do. Most do what they think they should be doing.

When I sit at my computer and think that I should write something, my energy drains.

Yet, when I sit and write what I want to write, then my energy rises and things are easier.

Have you noticed the same?

Have you also noticed that when people do what they want to do, there is a natural energy about them?

A coachee arrived to his career coaching session feeling flat and directionless. When he left, he did so with a renewed sense of vigour, having unloaded his should do things – having also reconsidered his life’s want to dos.

'Shoulding' All Over Yourself | CareerSupport365
Thanks: Dan Pearce

In what areas of your life are you ‘shoulding’ all over yourself?

  • List areas of your life you are living to other people’s standards.

  • List areas of your life you are living to shoulds that are draining and disempowering you – if you are true to yourself.

  • List what you really want to do.

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About the author:

Greg Weiss is the Founder of CareerSupport365. He has almost 30 years success in HR and in career coaching people.

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Greg Weiss

Greg Weiss is the founder and director of Career365 and Australia’s leading career coach. Greg has coached well over a thousand people from recent graduates to CEOs as they pivot, re-launch and accelerate their careers. He is the author of three practical books and the creator of three online courses: “Career Clarity. How to find career fulfillment”; “Career Networking. How to unlock the hidden job market”; and “Career Success. How to succeed in your new job”.

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